Love for Real or Reel? “Quest for the Real Love” (part 1 of 2)

What is REAL LOVE? that’s what a lot of people we’re trying to find out.probably everyone wants to find out, and i’m not here to come as a “know-it-all kinda’ guy”. Just wanna share my hearts out.

Perhaps because we’re all a relational being as God created us to be. Our God is also a relational God. He is not just up there in a far away galaxy looking down and watching over us. God created us first and foremost to have our hearts and soul connected to Him.

” The second and most powerful way he wants to express His love to you, is He wants to bring another person into your life. He wants your hearts, minds and emotions to connect” -Chip Ingram

He wants us to understand and experience how to receive love and give love, to understand what’s sex is, where it should be and how it can be better, deeper understood and appreciated in the best way we could ever imagine. He wants us to meet the person who would be there even if all they see is our ugliness, our lack of patience and carnality. They will still smile, look at us and say ‘ I still love you anyway’.

We’ll some of us already found that person, while some relationships aren’t in that kind of situation. while many are still in the process of looking, praying and even fasting for the “Right person at the Right time and place?”. It’s the longing of every single heart.

It has been in the almost all of the songs, movies and mtv’s. And if we’re going to take a brief summary of Hollywood’s prescription about Romance, it’s this four (Reel) prescription;

Step 1 Find the right person - that means you gotta go out there on a hunt. We gotta “wear the right jeans”. And we have an entire world doing what? looking and looking and looking.

Step 2 Then fall in love - You will find this in a lot of movies. You don’t know how it happens but it magical, it’s mystical You might be just riding on the LRT and she walks by and your eyes meet. then you’re “in-love”. You might into a Starbucks or in a mall, You bumped into each other. you look he looks , there’s something about his eyes, there’s chemistry. then you go tell your friend, “I’ve met him!” (kinikilig!) Who? what? where? when? What’s his name? how old is he? I don’t know but i met Him and i’m in love.

Step 3 You start to fix your hopes and dreams with that person =)Your entire world now revolves around that person and trying to met him/her. He started not going to his class, she’s not doing her homework, her other responsibilities. it’s all about getting to meet that person. Then both of you started going out and the feelings are so powerful. Can you relate on this =)

 

Step 4 However if that failure occur, repeat steps one,two and three. When you found out something in them is rotten, they go out with another person and unsure of getting into marriage or a long-term or perhaps lifetime commitment. Here’s their assumption. Oh it was just for a season. He was not really the right person. Then we go out and “fish” again to find that what we hope and pray to be “GPC” God’s perfect choice for us!

We wonder How can we really find what’s God’ will is? His good pleasing and perfect will for us! Who is the right person, where can we find him/her, When can we find that person specially meant for us? We now know about the Hollywood’s prescription, How about looking at God’s prescription? God’s way of ordaining our relationships, Share me your thoughts on this …

Let’s give our “pen” to God and let Him write our very own Love Story! =)

Love for Real or Reel? “Quest for the Real Love” (part 2 of 2)

I was in the hospital while writing this down, I wander why do we call the sick people “patient” maybe it’s because they have to patient in order get treatment and then I was reminded of one of the mostly quoted verse in the Bible regarding “Love” in 1st Cor.13:4, The first characteristic of Love is Patient…. and it goes on in saying that it is kind, self-less, it trusts, hopes, and always perseveres…it never fails.

Somebody asked me,” Ikakasal ka na ba? ” what inspired me to write ‘em. I believe you don’t have to be dead in order to say something about death, you don’t have to married in order to say something about marriage and family planning, as long as you’re getting there and with all the lessons learned from others mistakes and experiences. =)

How do you develop your love life regardless of whether you’re single or married already?

on Part 1, we saw how Love that’s for REEL looks like, Hollywood’s prescription, Now i wanna share with you another model, what’s the difference between love and infatuation? Let me share to you the 3 different kinds of Love in God’s prescription;

Agape Love that’s the idea of being brother and sister in Christ.
That’s loving one another radically, That’s giving the other person what
They need the most when they deserve it the least. That’s cherishing and
Protecting. That’s being pure because you don’t want anything to damage them.

Agape love is doing what you choose is right because you care, not what you feel


Phileo
On the right side is Phileo Love, that’s being best friends, that’s time, and walks and communication and sharing hearts.


Eros
And then you have Eros, Erotic love and that’s being lover and nourishing in the marriage relationship what God longs for you to have.

But here’s what I want for us to see; all three need to go together,
All three needs to be nourished.

Keep your emotional and physical involvement behind your leading from God
And commitment to the other person.


I will not get involve physically until God opens the door, and I know it His will.

Not that coz they deserve it, not if they… or because they… but you do it because
You have been given it by God, and you begin to give it that way.

That’s because all in all Love never fails… (1 Cor. 13)

It’s patient it’s kind, it doesn’t bring up the past. It’s considerate. It’s not rude. It doesn’t brag. It’s other centered. It’s a kind of love God loves you with…. It might be hard, God is there to help us out…. as long as He’s in the center of our relationships…


Love is a choice . . . not a feeling.

Agape + Phileo + Eros = REAL LOVE